You are such a nice guy. She has to learn how to do this sooner ot later. Good doing will all be blessed. Have a nice weekend.

Save?
Not a concept that she is ggod with. First objective would be to get her to be able to last the whole month on her budget. Then once that is mastered may be saving will be next.

Being the type of person you are, I am sure you would continue to make sure he has the things he needs anyway. Did she not save any of the money from the maintenance payments to cover college, to help when he leaves home etc? A portion of my kids money from their dad goes way every month, makes sense to do it.

Well he has some stuff he needs for college, so I'll get that for him, and as I have been doing up until now I will ensure his car is maintained and safe to drive.

Its purely your choice Mark, all my payments stopped for both my boys at aged 18, I then realised it was time for us to start thinking a new plan of action.... At 18 they very much are at an age where they can work for themself, both mine do now!!
Its all about going it with the money we have!!
However the choice is yours, and yes I agree with the others if you do then give it to him direct.
Love and Light
Jackie

I agree with mystic, If you really want to give him cash put it in his account. Also what she is doing is called the guilt trip. When I was 18 (and many years before and after) any money my parents gave me was spent on weed. Not saying its the same, just kids don't really spend free money wisely.

I personally would not give the money to her... I would set up an account for him if HE needs anything you have that account ready to rock for school to help with a car or something of the sorts but even here in Canada payments stop and I was SOL... That's how you can do it you're still helping HIM but not her I think that's a fair for him. As Gill said the same thing. Finance him not her!

Hmmmm this is a hard one Mark. Yes he is not your son and yes you have treated him and regard him as a son. The thing is though when it comes down to the nitty gritty he is not your responsibility. You will have to choose over your heart or the legalities. I think if it was me I would nto give the money to your ex but i would finance the lad of and when he needed the money but only for essential things such as his education etc.

As his Dad is overseas, different rules may have applied, though weshe has had it confirmed from the correct people that payments stop at 18 regardless.

Ohh reading further in certain circumstances it can be 19, but as the parent lives out of the country that may not apply, anyway hope it helps.

http://www.separateddads.co.uk/what-age-do-child-maintenance-payments-stop.html
As it says here, payments stop at the end of the school year as the person turns 18, but that aside, it is not your responsibility to pay.

He is in furhter education, he has one more year to go at college.

Is he working or going to further education? Payments stop at 18 as far as I know, that goes for any money from child benefits etc too, he is essentially an adult and capable of earning. Asking you to cover this is wrong, yes to all intents and purposes you are his dad, but it's not up to you to pay this money to her. She gets enough from you already.