Gail I am sure you are right.
Will be gald when it is all behind us.

* kind

hunni - mow if you have a smear and there are abnormalities - they check you for the hpv virus ( if none present then they don't worry) if there is the virus they automatically send for you.. my friend had this king of 'biopsy' and through it the cells were removed and hey presto she is totally fine !
am a thinking this is more worry than actually problem !!

We will all be crossed finger for her, she is important for the kids. Hope it is just a minor problem and she will be fine soon.

Her Mother has already said she will go, I am sure that remains the best option.

I would make myself available for child care if required, but from you description it does not sound as though she will be disabilitated in anyway

My ex husband (or infact anyone who may have gone with me) was not allowed in the treatment room, but as you will be under a different trust it may be different at your hospital... Am certain you could call to confirm things like that though.

Thanks for that Sharon, based on that description, I am sure I'll not be required for hand holding.

A TRIP TO THE COLPOSCOPY CLINIC EXPLAINED.... lie on back legs apart, a camera is inserted so the Dr can see whats happening, also she can watch this if she wants, there should be a dedicated nurse there to hold hand give support, as said before, dodgy cells are cut out and the area then cauterized, cells removed will be (probably) sent for a biopsy, your ex will require another smear in roughly 6 months and then yearly for 5 years after that, there are differnt degrees of abnormality regarding the cells you can ask your Dr about this. The process is mildly uncomfortable and your dignity suffers more than anything.
Eleven years since my initial visit, two visits to the col clinic, no further problems. As you said in your first comment Mark
"I am sure the function of the smear is to have an early indication of the anominallies, when they can be sorted out efficiently and easily"..... bang on the ball there.

GIll that is very kind of you.

Fingers crossed for her that it is just a minor problem and I am sure it will be Mark. Whatever though at least they are acting quick on the matter in hand.
For all her faults and everything that has gone on between you two. I do wish her well and all the best as woman to woman nobody would wish anything like this on another person. Will keep her in my thoughts.

Had a long chat with her last night, after having done a bit of research on the whole thing.

I am sure this is just a minor thing, but best to be sorted now rather than later. So we have the next three weeks to get through before she goes in, and I do not know how long until the results and required action are known.

She is happy that her Mum has jumped straight in and offered to go in with her, I have offered as well, but it sounds as though she wants to keep me in reserve for if she needs to go in for treatment, which may be more onerous than the look see.

On her behalf, I thank you for your good wishes and support

When the shit hits the fan you depend on those you know you can rely on. Whatever has happened you were her Husband a long time and I guess your one of her "relied on" people. I hope things work out for her. I've never had an abnormal smear but I would imagine its scarey shit. Funny how when things happen you turn to people you know will be rock solid for you, no matter what. Your job Mr Rock is holding it together.
fingers crossed
jacq

It would apear that any prolonged exposure to me, causes her severe irritation

Who was it that said "men do not have hearts?" Mark you are a good guy. I just really don't understand why you two live apart.

Well I certainly think she is damn lucky that you are still there for her after the way she treats you. Its always you who she tuurns to first it seems.

Not sure she sees it as lucky having me around.

No good saying to the ex dont worry cos I think everyone would but I am sure she will be fine. My sister in law had an abnormal smear and she had to go in to have her cervix cauterised I think they called it which was the burning off of the abnormal cells. She said it was uncomfortable but not too bad. She has been fine after that. Im sure she will be too. She is lucky that she stil;l has you to support an dcomfort her Mark.

I am sure the function of the smear is to have an early indication of the anominallies, when they can be sorted out efficiently and easily

Crossed fingers it's nothing bad ( I have never had a normal smear and they just keep an eye on it ).